People considering psychotherapy sometimes ask me, “What is your approach to counseling?”  I am happy to discuss this question in a phone conversation, but some have wanted a more detailed description of my work. On this page, I highlight five books written for psychotherapists that include my thoughts on working with men and couples. If you want to look through any of these books, of course, you can use the “Look Inside” feature on

A Counselor's Guide to Working with Men

Robertson, J. M. (2014). Counseling older men. In M. Englar-Carlson, M. Evans, & T. Duffey (Eds), A counselor’s guide to working with men, pp. 159-178. American Counseling Association.

This book examines a series of critical issues about the psychology of men and masculinity—health behavior, sexual violence, addictions, trauma, fatherhood, and more. Chapters are written by scholars or practitioners nationally known for their work in developing successful, evidence-based strategies for treatment of the problem they address. My contribution to this book was a chapter about understanding and helping older men—the issues they face, and what can help them live more contented, productive lives

Robertson, J. M. (2012). Tough guys and true believers: The authoritarian male in the psychotherapy room. New York, NY: Routledge Press.

Some men are described by others as being controlling, manipulative, narcissistic, or prejudiced. These are harsh words, but they describe how some men are experienced in their work or home settings. I wrote this book as a guide for counselors who work with these men, often described as authoritarian. It includes a description of how these disagreeable traits have been adaptive for them, and what tools can help them change. “Throughout, Robertson emphasizes a reality that many therapists doubt: Some authoritarian men want to change their behavior, and are capable of doing so. This book presents an empathic and respectful view of a group of men too often written off as unmanageable and unchangeable” (quote from the publisher’s summary).

Robertson, J. M. (2005). Finding Joshua’s soul. In M. Stevens and M. Englar-Carlson (Eds.), In the room with men: A casebook of psychotherapy with men. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

This book notes that “Men enter therapy less frequently than women, and when they do, therapy can be quite different than it is with women clients. To work with men successfully, therapists must be aware of these differences and often must adjust their approach….The contributing authors of this volume (bring) …readers into the counseling room with their male clients and describe their personal views about and their particular approach to working with men” (from the publisher’s summary).

Robertson, J. M. (2009). Challenges and clinical issues in counseling religiously affiliated fathers. In C. Z. Oren, and D. C. Oren (Eds), Counseling fathers: Practical, theoretical, and cultural perspectives. New York, NY: Routledge.

This edited volume features multiple scholars and clinicians who review psychotherapy with specific populations of fathers, such as stay at home fathers, older fathers, and fathers in various ethnic groups.  My contribution to the book is a chapter that explores ways in which religious commitment influences fathering behavior, and offers guidelines for counselors who wish both to respect a man’s religious heritage and to provide research-supported strategies to improve his fathering skills.

Robertson, J. M., & Shepard, D. S. (2008). The psychological development of boys. In M. S. Kiselica, M. Englar-Carlson, and A. M. Horne (Eds.). Counseling troubled boys: A guidebook for professionals. New York, NY: Routledge.

The publisher writes, “This volume provides practitioners with clear, helpful information about the process of understanding and engaging a wide array of boys and adolescent males in counseling….Key content includes adjustment issues, strategies for establishing rapport, interventions, case studies, and suggestions for future training and research.”

With David Shepard, PhD., I co-wrote the first chapter that reviews what we know about the psychological and emotional development of boys.

Robertson, J. M., & Khamphadky-Brown, S. (2010, in press) Early life memories: a male-friendly approach to developing couple collaboration. In D. Shepard (Ed.),   Engaging men in couple therapy.  New York, NY: Routledge

This edited book is designed for counselors who want to work with male-female couples in male-friendly ways. Each chapter reviews a particular approach on topics such as infidelity, cultural diversity, working with veterans, and fathering issues. The chapter I co-wrote with Dr. Khamphadky-Brown illustrates the importance of reviewing the early life experiences of couples, long before they met each other—what they saw modeled, and what they learned about relationships.